Narc Mom Needs A Woman Serving Her

On January 21, 2024April 21, 2024 By RubyIn BPD, Family Scapegoat, Narcissist, Narcissist Abuse, Narcissist Mother, psychopath, Scapegoat, Survivor, victimLeave a comment

Whether it was a waitress, or The Avon Lady, or a lower income woman who needed a ride Narc Mom was at her best self under those conditions because somehow the ‘inferior’ woman made her feel better about herself.

In fact the presence of such a woman helped to stabilize Narc Mom.

Eventually her daughter became that stabilizing woman.

It’s like she needs someone to pick on so that she can smile at someone else.

Always having to discharge aggression.

I guess Narc Mom was a bit of an alpha in that she would disrespect a particular woman in the group and the others would follow suit.

Kind of like the lead mare in a pen saying, “Me first,” in a condescending neigh or bray.

Quite primitive in fact.

Narcissists Don’t Like A Package Deal

On May 5, 2024 By RubyIn BPD, Family Scapegoat, Marginalization, Narcissist, Narcissist Abuse, Narcissist Mother, Narcopath, Scapegoat, Self Care, Survivor, victimLeave a comment

Narcissists don’t take the bad with the good.

They only want the best parts of anything or anyone.

A woman I knew left her leftover Chinese food in the refrigerator and her boyfriend took the meat and left the vegetables for her.

They want the paycheck without doing the work.

This is also seen in a Narcissistic Family that scapegoats.

The Narcissists that make up the family get the scapegoats share of money, love, respect, and help.

They also get the scapegoats compliments while the insults that belong to the Narcissists get hurled onto the scapegoat.

The family is enmeshed with almost non-existent boundaries and diffuse roles which can actually be quite disturbing and disgusting.

One becomes the other or is the other.

All of the Narcissists are simply wonderful and live good lives and the Scapegoat suffers and is all bad.

There is varying degrees of this depending on the severity of the Narcissism in the family.

Scapegoats take the punishment that the Narcissist deserves and in the worst possible cases the scapegoat is sacrificed if not figuratively, then literally.

In short Narcissists are spoiled and aggressive. Dishonest and delusional. In denial as well.

The scapegoat needs a good and highly skilled therapist and social worker too in many cases to escape when the time is right to go on to live the best life of them all.

The scapegoat needs money and a few good friends and also a firm belief in themselves.

They scapegoat can go on to live a meaningful and healthy life with rewarding relationships that is real and rightfully earned.

A Scapegoat Is Accomplished In Their Own Right

On April 23, 2024 By RubyIn BPD, Family Scapegoat, Narcissist, Narcissist Abuse, Narcissist Mother, Narcopath, Poverty, psychopath, Scapegoat, Self Care, Survivor, victimLeave a comment

Other people invested in their careers, money, material things.

But you beat the odds, had a life that the best books are made of, plus you are so very rich inside.

It’s so funny when spoiled people complain and say that they had it harder than you.

The more these people talk, the more they prove themselves wrong.

Oftentimes we live in a poverty.

Take to reading and writing.

Eating well.

Get good rest.

Only a person like you can truly stand alone and be ok.

Awaken the inner phoenix in you and rise above secretly.

Your life is your say.

Keep quiet about it.

Psychopaths Kill With Emotion

On April 20, 2024April 21, 2024 By RubyIn BPD, Family Scapegoat, Homelessness, Marginalization, Narcissist, Narcissist Abuse, Narcissist Mother, Narcopath, psychopath, Scapegoat, Self Care, Survivor, victimLeave a comment

(Pexels Image) Stormy Weather Faces A Woman Alone

I knew a woman who studied her life and googled on it and found that the occurrences made for her(repeated forced displacement from housing), would cause both mental health problems plus physical ailments.

Plus moving costs money and is disorienting.

Then you have to find a new support system when your chips are already down.

On top of that these harmful people will give you a double whammy of of bad news, first grief, and then shock, on top of it before the grief is resolved which just causes more mental and physical health ailments.

A broken heart plus being blindsided.

Try getting doses of hostility accompanied by word salad in repetition.

You become tired, isolated, lose hope, plus people who don’t believe you or respect you(which can anger you), and even if they do they may not have the guts to stand by you.

This is where a person has to be their strongest yet and search inside themselves and study because knowledge is power.

This is the moment you must call on everything in life that you know.

Eat, drink, read, stay clean, stay indoors if you must.

Hibernate like an animal.

A squirrel who had gathered nuts.

You can survive this.

When you do and you feel ready to resume your life you will be a powerful life force.

Life then becomes easy having survived this.

Others will turn to you as a pillar of strength.

You got this!